Divorce and Money Blog

Getting Older Sucks, Now Add Divorce to That?

My Mom died  3 weeks ago just as Merri Hanson, my co-presenter, and I were finalizing our power point on the GRAYING DIVORCE JOURNEY for the Interdisciplinary Divorce Catalyst Conference in NYC October 1-4.  At 98, Mom couldn’t see well,  or hear well,  and didn’t always know where she was.  Unable to recover from an infection, her Time had come.   But her Timing couldn’t have been more poignant.  Right when Merri and I were discussing how Time is THE crucial  difference between a younger divorcee and the graying divorcee.  The “Grayee” has... Read More

The Future of Divorce: Technology + the Human Touch

Working in divorce finance is like peeling an onion; every agreement reveals even more sticky layers, and tears. As we peel back more and more conflicts about money, we expose something much greater underneath: a mess of value systems and hidden fears, that often play leading roles in the divorce process. As professionals, we’ve seen those emotions derail many settlements and family relationships, but have often felt powerless to stop it.
So how do we leverage our knowledge to guide clients through those sticky emotions that stand in the way of amicable divorce?  
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Divorce Stress Management Method

In 2005, it became clear to me that my first husband and I were heading towards a divorce.  Our son was only two years old at that time. My husband and I had met in law school and started a law firm together, which we had co-operated over the course of several years.  Even though my legal practice was devoted to divorce litigation, facing the prospect of my own divorce suddenly paralyzed me with stress and fear.  
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Legal, Ethical and Risk Management Issues in Interdisciplinary Approaches to Dispute Resolution

I am so looking forward to exploring legal, ethical and risk management issues in interdisciplinary approaches to conflict management at my session at the Catalyst Conference.  Many of us recognize that conflicts, whether in the family, business or workplace setting, have emotional, legal and financial aspects so that the disputants are often best served by a team of professionals with different kinds or expertise.... Read More

How Humpback Whales Do It

I’ve spent a good portion of the past 20 years studying, studying humpback whales that is. At the moment, I’m working my binoculars hard in Stellwagen Bank, a popular feeding ground off the coast of Massachusetts, allowing myself only an occasional break for a lobster dinner or a plate of Wellfleet oysters on the half shell. ... Read More

See a Broadway Show and Save Money on Your Taxes

In my last post, I wrote about “Fun Home,” this year’s Tony award winner for best musical.  Not only is Fun Home a great musical, it is a great example of how theatre (like the songs of Bob Dylan) can provide high entertainment value AND deep insight into the human condition.  As someone who typically spends much of his time with his head buried in spreadsheets, I can do no wrong by splitting my free time in NYC between pastrami, theatre, oysters and a good glass of wine.... Read More

Social Media and Divorce

Every day I think that I have heard it all and then there will be a new issue involving social media issues and my divorce clients. We now call e-mail e for evidence.

Following are some of my thoughts about this critical issue that impacts upon everyone who deals with divorce, whether as an attorney, certified divorce financial planner, mediator or therapist.... Read More

Fun Home – 2015 Tony Award for Best Musical

Prior to the Supreme Court’s recent landmark ruling, same-sex marriage (and unfortunately divorce) was destined to be an important, complex and “hot” topic at the 2015 Divorce Catalyst Conference. This decision makes our need to understand the legal, financial and emotional complexities, as they continue to evolve, even more compelling. Although I am sure many of this year’s sessions will touch upon this issue, one session I am particularly looking forward to is Jessica Rothberg ‘s and Barbara Rothberg’s presentation entitled “When The Rainbow Breaks, The Emotional and Legal Challenges of Gay Divorce.”... Read More


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